Transforming Grief into Gratitude

We have been in dialogue about hosting a special retreat here at the Mount of Oaks for several months. A dear friend of MoO, Hajo Muller visited in the Autumn and shared about his experience of having taken part in a grief ritual in the North of England, hosted by Kedar S. Brown. Barbara and I were intrigued as he shared about the transformational experience – and began to discern if this was something that could be hosted at here…

Many emails, conversations, a zoom chat later, and we are happy to announce the dates for the Grief and Gratitude Ritual – over the Autumn Equinox – 19-22nd September.

Folks are asked to arrive on the afternoon of 19th, in order to set up tents and be ready for the beginning of the processes. The closing will be 12 noon on the Sunday.

Why do we feel it important to host this ritual at this time?

For us personally we experience all sorts of grief, from the loss of our biological fathers, to the losses of biodiversity or deep connections to culture or traditional skills… we have been drawn to the work of Kedar for a number of reasons.

Here is what he has to say about grief…

‘For many of us, the residues of grief remain in that silent territory of isolation; an inconvenience to the demands and pace of the life we find ourselves in, waiting for a shared acknowledgment and invitation that often does not arrive.
Grief is a natural gift of the human condition, guiding us toward healing, reconciliation and forgiveness. In time it can open a deep well of gratitude connecting us more heart-fully to those we love.

If we have lived into adulthood, we have certainly experienced pain in our lives: death, relationship crises, emotional and physical traumas, trans-generation loss and displacement, divorce, broken dreams, destruction of our natural habitats and species, loss of old friends and developmental transitions of aging.

In indigenous life, grief is often viewed as a necessary conduit for assisting the dead to the realm of the ancestors. It is in ritual that deep expressions of grief provide a river for loved ones to travel to the other-side. If we do not offer our tears they may not get to where they need to go and some of us may get pulled in with them. Unexpressed grief can settle into our psyche or subconscious mind traveling as a silent ghost through family generations smothering joy, creativity and our ability to connect with others.’

During the weekend we will deepen our connection to the natural world, gather and share the stories of grief from our lives and bring them together in ritual space for respect, honoring and release.

This Indigenous African Grief Ritual offers a soul cleansing rite to release grief, lighten our soul and let our true spirit be heard, deepening our sense of balance and fulfillment. From the indigenous perspective, grief is not only for the living community, it is also a source of sustenance for and connection to the ancestors. Our communal tears will flow as a river from this world to the other as an offering that activates connection and healing in both worlds.

“The Well of Grief”
Those who will not slip beneath
the still surface of the well of grief
turning downward through its black water
to the place we cannot breathe
will never know the source from which we drink,
the secret water, cold and clear,
nor find in the darkness glimmering
the small round coins
thrown away by those
who wished for something else”. — David Whyte

This retreat includes:

  • Indigenous African Grief Ritual
  • Drumming, Movement, Poetry
  • Four Seasonal Shields of Initiation
  • Shamanic Healing Methods
  • Healing For Life Transitions/Crisis
  • Song, Music and Village Life
  • Personal Myth Making and Story Telling
  • Healing Ancestral Traumas
  • Holding Ritual Space
  • Honoring Grief

If you are interested in finding out more information, please drop an email. We are seeking to have a group of at least 20 people taking part.

 

Call for an Organic Co-op?

There was an open call for a conversation about then possible setting up of a local organic co-op in the Teatro in Alpedrinha recently. Francisco Dinis and Richardo Carvalho hosted the meeting and Marcia Luz did a wonderful job of translating.

It was a really mixed group, with some people really wanting to move ahead with the project and others at the start of the journey, who came along to ask questions and find out more information.

 

The format used to hear opinions and feedback was the ‘World Cafe’ and three questions were worked with at smaller tables.The aim was to establish if there was a consumer need for the co-op structure.

The event had about 30 people, and we realised that there is more awareness raising to do at this stage.

It is only a year since the formation of the association ‘BioEco’ that we are a part of. In that year much as been achieved in terms of almost weekly organic markets in the area, lots of training courses, and workshops.

For many in this local movement, the next natural step is towards a sustainable business model for our local small scale farmers – and that is a co-operative….watch this space for more step by step developments!

In the meantime, the next market in Alpedrinha is 28th April – see you there!

Fermenting in the Sun

The first fermenting gathering at Mount of Oaks this year was a lovely experience for all who came along! Normally we are a bunch of women, chopping and chatting, getting excited about how delicious and nuturious our jars of joy will be in a few short weeks…..

….but on this occasion we were joined by Ian (in the picture above) and by cute little Dylan! Both were welcomed with open arms!

Beetroot Krauts, breakfast ferments, orange marmalade and a Moroccan carrot were some of the recipes that were produced.

2 new ladies came to the group, Bi, who has recently moved to the area, brought her adorable daughter and some milk kefir to share around, and Georgie with the most amazing tattoos!

Happy women, men and babies as we displayed our yummy jars at the end of the afternoon.

Looking forward to the next gathering!

Migrants Welcome in Fundao

Recently the government minster responsible for migration came to Fundao to open the new department of the council who is working with the African refugees and the migrant population in the area.

Paula, Ana Teresa, Andera and Tania – what a great team of proactive citizens!

Most recently, last Saturday was the first of the gatherings under the banner ‘Mixed Talks’ and despite the short notice we were a group of 9 nations represented!

We began with a fun encounter discovering how we greet in our different cultures, we sat and had several rounds of interesting conversations.

Using some of the tools from the Art of Hosting methodology, we talked, listened, laughed and ate together. Some stories were not easy to witness, and others were lovely reflections on what it was like to live here in Fundao. Overall, the experience was heart opening as was reflected by a participant.

What came across strongly was the desire to meet again and open the circle wider to others who have moved to the region and are interested in cultural exchange.

Many thanks to the team now based in what was the Seminary in Fundao. These amazing women are pure pioneers of what an open welcome can draw to the region! I’m honored to work with them in developing this project!

 

End of an Era!

For those of you who are not aware, we would like to share our news about the ‘moving on’ of Marcia, Eric and little Samuel. Marcia and Eric came to live here, 2013, even before they were married (2014) with the intention of supporting the activities at the Mount of Oaks and trying out the experience of living in community.

Over these last years we have shared a significant journey together. And one I would like to honor in this blog post. These people grew, as did Barbara and I, through a wide range of great and not easy experiences. Being the living liturgy of ‘different, diverse but not divided.’

Over the years we shared our dreams, passions and skills….

We dreamed together

We worked together

We laughed and celebrated together

We welcomed the arrival of new life in the form of Samuel!

We grieved the passing of beloved Xico

And had a lot of fun in the process…

The amazing miracle – baby Samuel was conceived and came into the world – living these last 2 1/2 years in the home that Barbara designed and built together with Eric and a team of helpers!

WE ALL grew in terms of social and practical skills. Whether it was learning how to prune, plaster, produce, prioritise, praise and give praise…the list goes on.

And then in last summer it was becoming apparent that our lives and personal and social needs were actually taking us in different directions. The story of us deciding to part ways could be told so many ways – by each of us – as we each, realised our desires for a new living situation.

The place that Marcia and Eric were living, though beautiful did not have a separate room for Sami, and this was what he and the parents needed. Alongside this, the need for this little family to have more personal time and their OWN space was voiced.

We held some difficult conversations as we sat with uncertainty and dug deep to work out next steps, and then late November Marcia and Eric announced at our End of Season party that they would move on and look for somewhere for themselves.

Our final community meeting was a tearful, honest and joyful one. Without Barbara who was still travelling, Marcia, Eric and I sat and preformed our closing ritual, just days before they moved out of their straw bale home. Leaving no stone un-turned we spoke from the heart and because of how well we know each other, we were able to end with the commitment to keep growing in self reflection and love.

Happily installed in a beautiful apartment in Vale de Prazers (the village along the mountain from Alpedrinha) they are opening a new chapter for their married and family and business life! They want to develop their natural cosmetics, Marcia is taking a ‘doula’ course and Eric is teaching German in night classes in Covilha. SO their new chapter already is opening for them…

As for the land at the Mount of Oaks, Barbara and I have been discerning our common vision. Asking, what we are to host there? What still needs to be brought to birth? The spiritual space for pilgrims, passers-by, nomads and seeks to have a place to encounter themselves and the Divine in nature still is a strong call. A place of connection and simplicity….

We are taking the rest of the month to pray, fast, seek, dream and even make some huge steps towards this vision. So watch this space for more hopeful and exciting news to come!

For today, we want to conclude this blog with a  thank you to Marcia, Eric and Sami for all they brought of themselves to this piece of land over these last years. And thank God for endings, and new beginnings.

Announcing dates of Silent Retreats

We will again host our ‘Invitation to Silence’ weekend retreats in 2019, one in Spring and one in Summer. Both weekends coincide with the new moon, when the body cycle naturally seeks to go inward.

May 3-5th, 2019

August 29-31st, 2019

We refer to these weekends as gentle as they are both a welcoming space for those quite accustomed with the spiritual practice of silence, and the complete novice. There are times for sitting together, and lots of space for the self to wander in the garden or the fields, read, swim, practice stretching or even getting a massage. The practice is supported with delicious local and organic vegetarian and vegan food and with inspiring liturgies from many traditions.

Accommodation is in either a tent or hammock YOU bring, or rent one of ours. There is the option on each retreat for one lucky person to stay in the double bed inside the Straw Bale guest room. For those who came last years loved sleeping so close to nature and under the amazing star filled sky!

 

For more information you can contact us directly (mountofoaks@gmail.com) and check these links to the events – here is the booking form.

Lyrical feedback offered from Tina, a Dutch participant last year…

Hello Emma,

I ‘ll try to give some feedback starting with MoO as the spot. It felt like heaven
Hospitality. Felt like coming home
Food. Delicious
Meditation. Interesting, deepening
Highlights. The being alone and the love I felt being there
I certainly will come again to MoO
I would recommend it to anyone
What I would say about this silence retreat is that it make you discover there is a extra dimension in silence that compleets us.

Thank you soo much Emma.

Celebration of Generosity: Festa das Papas

This annual festival in Povoa de Atalaia is probably my favourite ‘festa’ in the region. A celebration of the Saint Sebastian and a gathering that exemplifies all that is rich and beautiful about this village!

Every year different families take the role of planting and harvesting and then distributing the ‘blessed porridge’ to the rest of the villagers. It is a great sight to see the parade of the plates carrying the ‘Papas’ from the Mass to the little chapel where is is distributed…

Usually it is men from the household who wander in the crowd giving the magical porridge. The ceremonial aspect is hightened by the fact they wear an ornate embroidered white cloth over one shoulder and take each gift from under the cloak!

This year I didn’t take the best snaps as I was busy chatting to the neighbours!!! If I find links to blogs from the old site, I will post them here!

 

 

 

 

And here is the link to th

Growing a new economy

This week saw the book launch in Covilha of a practical and inspiring new book offerings some vision of a new greener and more sustainable economy.

The co-author, Roar Bjonnes outlined the integral solutions offered in the book to our current economic problems. It was really fascinating to listen to Roar. This gentleman, who is a long term environmental activist and researcher, shared what is fundamentally wrong with the current systems – and offer some practical vision and ways to put the environment at the center of our practices, not something else for us to commodify!

We were a group of over 30 people who came to listen. The launch was organised by members of the Prout Research Institute, and was introduced by Professor Andre Barata of the University of Beira Interior.

For more information on how to get hold of the book, check the website –

www.growinganeweconomy.com

Well done Francisco and Alexandre for your efforts and super translation!

This was a follow-up event from the brilliant conference that Prout organised in Covilha last year. To read a little about, check this blog.

 

Aqui Não! Local campaign against mining in Serra de Argemela

Yesterday a group of us went to a really well organised campaigning event in Fundao. The aim was to raise awareness of a local campaign to save the Serra de Argemela from further mining.

The ‘Aqui Não’ movement has gained support from the local authorities of Fundao and Covilha and a group of determined local ladies who keep the folk singing alive in the region.

The traditional singing group were present on stage and in the short film made to highlight the issue.

To watch the film ‘Black Mountain’ or know more about the campaign to save the mountain from mining’s follow this link:

It is worth a watch and the music is beautiful.

Tom G Hamilton has been a great support to this project, and is a great example of what a non-national can contribute into the local society!

To read more about the campaign check them group website

https://gpsa-preservacao-da-serra-da-argemela.webnode.pt/

 

For more photos from the event yesterday – check this link

https://www.facebook.com/media/set?set=a.2297752833621770&type=3&sfns=cl

Review 2018

How to condense all the wonderful happenings, visits, events and courses into one blog post?! Impossible to cover EVERYTHING – but here goes at a whistle stop attempt!

There is so much to give thanks for that took place in 2018. The year began with us finishing the major work to the kitchen.

January and Febuary we were concentrating on the kitchen and planning events for the Spring. But we did go and teach a day workshop on using permaculture in an urban context near Covilha.

Then we had the whole mixed ability group at the land for a forgaging, seed sowing and tree planting day!

Already in March we were out and about taking part in the local Eco-Markets – the first of these to happen in the public space was in Alpedrinha. Eric took a lead with these as the year went on and in total he attended 18 eco markets.

What is great about the markets is that they began to grow in popularity – another monthly market opened for BioEco in Covilha – and others in the region started, such as one in Penamacor, and even a market at a conference organised by Sementes Vivas in Idanha Velha.

We gave our first demonstration of how to make Sour Kraut at an Eco Market in Alpedrinha which was LOADS of fun!

and the next in Covilha at the Feira de Troca..

April saw the beginning of the open season. We began to host a weekly yoga practice with Laura. Had family in the form of Marcia’s mum Camilla to visit and Kirsty come volunteer for a month.

Kirsty and Ba made their project for the month the building of a palacial hen house for chickens we were given by Paula a neighbour who moved back to Scotland.

We had our Annual General Meeting for the White Stone association in mid April and it was really well attended by local people and we presented our ideas for the coming year and got useful feedback.

We had our opening event of the season – a Spring Gathering in April too. The preparations for this day were epic fun. We gathered in the village for a ‘chop and chat’ the day before, and a group of some of the bestest ladies in the areas showed up..

And then there was the actual Open Day….which was themed around making connections. It was a family and educational day with mini workshops, an open space type networking part and even a chance to make bug hotels!

May was the beginning of the flurry of guests and events. We had Jenny, Frank and little Iona come to stay and learn how to make a few fermented goodies. We also had Emit from California and Lauren from Canada here holidaying and helping.

In early May we did a workshop in Fundao about healthy foods in the park…

Our first fermenting workshop of the year was in May and my mum was delighted to be here to attend. Marcia, Nicky Arnold (our dear friend and top lady!) and I were quite nervous at the start, but gently found our feet with the structure and layout of the workshop. The participants seemed to love it!

During the local Cheese festival in Soalheira we had a lovely Austrian couple come and stay in their camper van. We brought them along to a walk where we enjoyed the local countryside, visited sheep farms and ate yummy cheese!

And one wet day in May Rose came and gave us a Kombucha masterclass…

Barbara taught her first building course of the year at Quinta da Fonte, and they were making a ‘tiny house’ as well as learning all the skills Ba teaches.

In June the month began with a visit from dear friends Jayme and Jim from England – they are food people and so there was much fun cooking with fire outside the kitchen and long catch up chats.

We had Carly come in June and lead a course of Pilates in the common space. She since has set up courses in local village halls and her business is growing well!

For Summer solstice we walked silently to the top of the Gardunha’s and watched the sun rise and listened to errie pipes playing and welcome the mid point of the year.

More wonderful people arrived as the month went on…Isik and Craig from London, and then Lucy and Sue came on a mini retreat. Together we walked, collected fruits and foraged up the mountain, our chat spiced with politics, theology, and all other interesting subjects!

One of our volunteers Helen from Toteness came in June and stayed for most of the summer! She was great craic and loved to cook – so we were well taken care of!

In July we welcomed the return of Dearbhla, Ed, Holly and Jude to the area. Thanks to Martin and Tiddy they stayed comfortably at their place and we got the chance to hang out and cook together lots. Dearbhla expertly lead us through a workshop on ‘Seed Cycling’ on the new moon in July and the women present found it really useful.

We held a fun Summer Party in late July. Helen and Manuel were present to help and it was filled with dance, tunes, food and new connections. Click here for more snaps of the event!

As it heated up in August, Barbara headed over to Keela for more natural building courses. These were really popular and so was the short course in natural plasters at the end of the month. More of these courses are planned for 2019 – news of these are coming in the coming weeks!

August was also home to Boom Festival and afterwards we had some guests from Germany who spend days here to rest before heading back to their lives! Our volunteers for August, Sami and Daniel had been working at the Boom and came ready to get their creative hands dirty in our forest….

Also in August we welcome Raquel, Jarlith (travelling to us after completing the Caminho de Santiago de Compostela), Sandra and Alex. We were so blessed with the gift of each of these beautiful folk – each so individual, unique and delightful.

The month of August ended with a personal highlight in the form of weekend Silent Retreat. We had brilliant people come and embrace the practice of silence for 3 days. We ate well thanks to Marcia and Sami, the sitting practices joyfully attended, and so were the mediation walks. We will host two more of these in 2019 – at the start of May and the end of August, both over the new moon. Drop a line if you want to already reserve your spot.

September we had more guests in the form of long term supporter of Mount of Oaks, Miriam and her friend Catherine.

They were followed by a couple also living in Belfast who decided to make our Straw Bale house their honeymoon destination!! Zainab and Paddy were here for a week and they happened to be here to enjoy the Autumn Equinox at a neighbouring project.

They were also here for the annual Chocalhos festa in Alpedrinha….

Here is a blog about it!

We hosted another of the Yoruk retreats in September with Eva and Isik. The theme for this creative residential was ‘Song of the Cave’ and you can read more about it here.

We will welcome the group back again in March 2019 – the title of the experience is ‘Weaving the Dragon’

Before the group left, they had the chance to try some traditional shepherding – this post has more pictures…

Marcia, Eric and I went to Lisbon at the end of September for the first ‘Art of Hosting’ Training in Portugal in the Portuguese language! Yes, 3 day training only in Portuguese – Eric and I just about coped – and despite the frustration of sometimes not being able to express exactly what I wished, the experience was marvelous.

October began with a happy event – Barbara and I finally got legally married in Portugal and had a party to celebrate. Both our mum’s were present and we danced into the wee hours with friends.

Old friendships were a theme for the whole month as we welcomed the return of Juran and Ulli to celebrate 10 years since they got ‘married’ at the Mount of Oaks – accompanied on this trip with their 2 fab kids, Fiona and Alvin.

Ulli Butterfly celebrated her 40th birthday and had a beautiful party on the land. Ulli came for a whole month and we loved having her energy and creativity abounding! Whether she was dancing in the trees, harvesting flowers or fruit, leading us in worship or having a good chat – she was present and brought a lot of joy.

We had the volunteer help from Freddie, Mike and Quis in the run up to the Olive Harvest. These men were a massive help. Digging holes for the chestnut trees, taking back the mimosa or preparing wood piles – it was a blessing to have them here.

The first week of Mike’s time helping us he was accompanied by his wife Sarah. These two have been supporters of the Mount of Oaks, and one of their daughters since the start – so it was great to have them with us this Autumn.

In October Marica, Eric, Barbara and I began community meetings to speak about the vision and needs of the Mount of Oaks and us as individuals. The outcome of these heartfelt discussions was the decision that Marcia, Eric and Samuel would move on to find their own place to live and work in early 2019.

November saw us host the final soap making and fermenting workshops of the year.

We also harvested all the olives which was SUPER fast and fun this year! The team consisted of us 4, (Barbara going ahead and doing a first prune) Mike, Quis, Hajo, Freddie, Tobias and Russ! Dream Team!

At the end of November we threw an end of year closing party – it was there that Eric shared their news of moving on. After 4 years of living together, we are all of the same heart – this is a good time to begin new chapters and adventures!

Visits in November also included a return for Hajo – and he saw great changes in the place since his last visit. He brought with him Sasha. Together we plotted about a possible retreat in September 2019 focused on rituals for processing grief. More of this to come… When Mike came for 6 super weeks, he drove from Northern Ireland towing a foldable caravan….it was amazing to see him take it down!

His was a planned visit – we had many unplanned visits too – like for example from a couple, Hilde and Oscar traveling from Holland, all around Europe collecting little videos about places that are ‘Finding a better way to live’.

It was a fantastic year – busy, we tried lots of new things and learned important lessons. We experimented and had lots of laughs and shared hugs and tears with many folk. We had frustrating moments, but on the whole, it was another super productive year and one we can celebrate for gifts of friendships renewed and new ones begun.

Looking forward to that 2019 has in store!!

More news on courses, retreats and info on volunteering to come! For, now, many many blessings from here to wherever you are.